A private invitation
Tols 4.0
is turning forty
26 – 31 March 2027 · Marbella, Spain
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Tols 4.0
Recharge · Relaunch · Reign
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You have been chosen
I am turning 40.
And I am not doing it quietly.
And I am not doing it quietly.
I am celebrating in Marbella, surrounded by my sisters and my closest friends. Five nights under the Andalusian sun. A trip that will feel less like a holiday and more like a homecoming.
This is not a crowd. It is a circle.
And your name is in it.
And your name is in it.
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The destination
Marbella, Spain
Nueva Andalucía. A private pool. Golden evenings.
The kind of place that asks nothing of you
except to be present.
Dates
26 – 31 March 2027
Location
Nueva Andalucía · Marbella · Spain
Accommodation
Private villa · 5 nights
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Five days. Each one intentional.
The villa
Where we'll land
Our home for the week sits quietly in Nueva Andalucía, tucked between the mountains and the sea. Whitewashed walls, a private pool that catches the afternoon light, terraces made for long breakfasts and longer conversations.
Inside, rooms enough for all of us, some shared, some still. You will be told which corner is yours before you arrive. Expect to wake slowly, coffee in hand, the coast somewhere in the distance.
This is not a hotel. It is ours for five nights. And it was chosen so that the only thing we ever have to do is be together.
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The days
Day 1 · 26 March
She Has Arrived
A welcome dinner prepared by a private chef at the villa. Something sparkling, food worth slowing down for, and the countdown to 40 officially begins. Games until whenever feels right.
Day 2 · 27 March
Roots, Radiance & Coast
A private tapas and walking tour through Marbella's Old Town. The afternoon at leisure, the pool, rest, or a wander to Puerto Banús. As evening falls, a beach club on the Mediterranean. Sunbeds, cocktails, sea views.
Day 3 · 28 March
She Moves Differently
A private boat cruise along the Costa del Sol. Dolphins, if they'll have us. Champagne, certainly. The coastline seen the way it was meant to be, from the water. And in the evening, authentic flamenco at a Marbella tablao. Raw, powerful, unforgettable.
Day 4 · 29 March
She Wore Her Story
A morning at Marbella's Fashion Museum. The afternoon entirely yours, spa, pool, stillness. And then, our fashion show, where the runway belongs to you. When the lights soften, a letter to the woman you are becoming. Sealed tonight. Opened in a year.
Day 5 · 30 March
Golden & Gloriously Unhurried
An optional sunrise walk for those who rise at six. Then we drive ourselves to Frigiliana, a Moorish white village unchanged in four hundred years, and on to the Caves of Nerja, a natural wonder 43,000 years in the making. Back at the villa by four, with time to rest and ready ourselves. Because tonight, we celebrate.
Day 5 · Evening · 30 March
The Reign Begins
From 6pm, the villa transforms. Cocktails by the pool, a private DJ playing the playlist she deserves, speeches and toasts, happy tears, and dancing until the stars say goodnight.
Dressed to the nines · heels optional
Day 6 · 31 March
She Leaves Different
The final morning is for slow breakfasts, one last dip in the pool, and lingering over coffee while we swap favourite moments from the week. Expect gratitude. Expect a few happy tears.
Before we scatter, a final stroll through Puerto Banús, last treasures, or a leisurely lunch by the marina. Transfers to the airport are arranged, so the only thing left to do is say goodbye, slowly, and with a full heart.
Before we scatter, a final stroll through Puerto Banús, last treasures, or a leisurely lunch by the marina. Transfers to the airport are arranged, so the only thing left to do is say goodbye, slowly, and with a full heart.
What to wear
Dressing the part
Every day has its own mood, and every evening its own drama.
Dress for the woman each moment is asking you to be.
Dress for the woman each moment is asking you to be.
Day 1 · She Has Arrived
Night · Welcome Dinner
Relaxed Elegance
A long, sleeveless column dress in a joyful colour, fluid, unhurried, made for candlelight and first embraces.
Day 2 · Roots, Radiance & Coast
Day
Tols@40 Tunics
Tunics over tailored trousers. Linen, ease, a straw hat for the Old Town sun.
Night · Beach Club
Coastal Glamour
Something that catches the light, a slip of silk or shimmer, with a wrap for the sea breeze.
Day 3 · She Moves Differently
Day · Boat Cruise
A Sea of White
Crisp linen or a flowing kaftan. Sandals slipped off at the deck's edge.
Night · Flamenco
Fire and Depth
Black and crimson, movement in the hem, a bold lip. Dress like the dance.
Day 4 · She Wore Her Story
Day · Fashion Museum
Play the Part
A dramatic drop-waist dress, a silk scarf, sunglasses with a little colour.
Night · The Fashion Show
Your Finest Hour
The outfit you've been saving for an occasion that never came. This is the occasion. The runway is yours.
Day 5 · Golden & Gloriously Unhurried → The Reign Begins
Day · The Caves
Grounded & Golden
Nude, taupe and earthy tones. Softly regal. Comfortable enough for cave floors.
Night · The Reign Begins
Unashamed Glamour
Gold, shimmer, a statement worthy of forty and forward. Dressed to the nines, heels optional.
Day 6 · She Leaves Different
Departure · Puerto Banús
Elevated Ease
Wide trousers, oversized sunglasses, a farewell worthy of the week.
March in Marbella is mild by day and cooler after dark.
Bring a layer for the evenings, and comfortable shoes for cobbled streets and cave floors.
Bring a layer for the evenings, and comfortable shoes for cobbled streets and cave floors.
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Getting there
Finding your way to us
Fly into Málaga Airport (AGP), the closest gateway to Marbella, well served from London and beyond. From there, Nueva Andalucía is roughly a 45-minute drive along the coast.
Where we can, arrivals will be grouped so we travel together and no one lands alone. Once you confirm, I'll gather everyone's flight details and let you know your transfer arrangements.
Aim to arrive on 26 March in good time for the welcome dinner, and to fly home on 31 March after check-out.
Everything you need will find its way to you. Confirm first. Details follow.
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The circle
The women in the room
Every name on this invitation was chosen with care. Sisters. Friends who have become sisters. The women who have carried me, celebrated me, and stayed.
When you arrive, you will already be among people who love you, because they love me, and because this circle was built to hold one another. Come as you are. You are already known here.
Come as you are. You are already known here.
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Logistics
Dates
26 – 31 March 2027
Check-out
31 March 2027
Confirm by
15 July 2026
Everything you need to know will find its way to you.
Confirm first. Details follow.
Confirm first. Details follow.
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A note on contribution
The practical, handled gently
There is, of course, a shared contribution toward the villa and the experiences of the week. I'll share those details with you privately once you've confirmed, quietly, clearly, and with plenty of time.
For now, all I'm asking for is your yes.
For now, all I'm asking for is your yes.
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Before you fly
A quiet checklist
A few small things, handled early, so nothing clouds the trip.
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Check your passport is valid for at least six months beyond March 2027.
02
Arrange travel insurance, always, for peace of mind.
03
Carry your GHIC (or EHIC) card for healthcare cover in Spain.
04
Bring some euros for small moments; cards are welcome most places.
05
Pack for mild March days and cooler evenings, sun by day, a layer after dark.
That's all. Leave the rest to me.
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Questions
Anything on your mind
Can I arrive a day late or leave early?
The villa is ours only from 26–31 March, so those are the dates we're working with. If your travel needs a little flexing around the edges, tell me, we'll see what's possible.
What if I have dietary needs?
Our private chef will look after everyone. Let me know your needs when you confirm, no request is too specific.
Who am I sharing a room with?
Room arrangements will be shared before we travel. If you have a preference, just say, I'll do my best.
What about dinners, are all evenings covered?
Most evenings are taken care of, a private chef dinner to open the week, beach club, flamenco, the fashion show, and the birthday evening itself. For the remaining nights, we keep it easy and together: a group dinner out, a spontaneous cook-up at the villa, or something we discover along the way. Some of the best nights have no plan.
Who do I ask about anything else?
Me. Always me. Send any question straight to my WhatsApp, no question is too small, and nothing will be left unanswered.
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Will you join me?
This is my ask. My one birthday wish.
Say yes.
Confirm on WhatsApp
Say yes.
Please confirm by 15 July 2026
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And on the last evening,
I will look around that villa
at the women who have carried me,
celebrated me, and chosen me,
and I will know that forty
was only ever going to feel like this
with you.
I will look around that villa
at the women who have carried me,
celebrated me, and chosen me,
and I will know that forty
was only ever going to feel like this
with you.
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Tols 4.0 · In the making
This space is for us.
Photos, moments, and notes from the trip, added as we go.
Photos, moments, and notes from the trip, added as we go.
Coming soon
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Notes from the circle
Space for words, wishes, and what we will not forget.